You Get What You Ask For

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“Enlarge the place of your tent; stretch out the curtains of your dwellings, spare not; lengthen your cords, and strengthen your pegs.  For you will spread abroad to the right and to the left.  And your descendants will possess nations, and they will resettle the desolate cities.”  Isaiah 54:2-3

I was told that 2014 is the year of expansion so I prayed, “Lord, enlarge my territory”.

The vision for my life was more than what I was experiencing.  I was depressed and disheartened. Each time I tried to make progress something or someone came along to distract or discourage me. Eventually, with back-to-back delays, I realized that if I did not do something soon discouragement would derail everything that I had worked so hard to accomplish.


My dreams, goals, and plans were still there.  I was more than willing to step into new territory.

My expectations were high.  My heart wide open.  Yet, here I was at a dead-end.  Not sure what to do, where to turn, or how to move.

How had I come to this point?  When did I step off the road that was moving me towards success?  The peace I had once experienced was now replaced with chaos and turmoil.  I searched my memory and racked my brains to see what had caused me to make this detour. Even more importantly, how was I going to get though it?


What or who had caused me to take one detour after another?  I wanted to move forward, but was not sure which direction to go or even how to start.  Each time I attempted to move the question arose, “What price are you willing to pay in order to move forward?”

One thing about expansion is that it requires you to move from a place of comfort and familiarity.  You have to leave behind what you know in order to step into what will at first be new and strange. Questions will fill your mind.  Doubt will rise up. Uncertainty will show itself.

Growth and expansion is often messy and chaotic.  Things do not always go according to your plan.  Deadlines are rarely met and delays often set us back.  But despite how it looks you must still continue with your plan.



When you ask for something that involves change, you will get what you ask for.  What you have to remember is that despite great plans and good intentions obstacles will come your way. All you have to do is learn to pick yourself up after each setback.  Don’t give up because it hurts. Instead, keep your eyes on the prize.  Stay focused on your ultimate goal and take whatever steps you need to in order to get there.

I asked  for my territory to be enlarged.  The price that I was willing to pay — Proceed with Caution.  I got what I asked for.  How about you?

What have you asked for in this year of expansion? What cost are you willing to pay to achieve success?  If you have already begun the journey, what has been some of the challenges or setbacks you have faced?  How have you overcome those obstacles?  Please let us know.  It might help us to get moving towards our dreams a little bit quicker.


Go Deep!

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When you face your fears, you will find that everything you need to be the courageous you is already within you. When you access the power within, you will be able to rise up to the tasks at hand. All you need is a little motivation to believe in yourself.

Today you go deep — deep within yourself to access your power. Go ahead, I dare you to Kick Fear Now!

Fear in Sheep’s Clothing

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When you are on a mission to eliminate fear from controlling your life, you will soon realize that unrealistic fear has no problem putting on sheep’s clothing if doing so will help it accomplish its goal.

Many times it will use the person closest to you to paralyze you. It could be your spouse, knocking down your idea about going back to college to earn a degree. It could be a sibling, reminding you of all the things you tried and failed at when you were young. It could even be your so-called best friend, who tells you how much they love you until you decide to do something different and extraordinary. Unfortunately, it’s often those people who think they know you, and what’s best for you, that push the fear button the hardest.

Jonathan Johnson, author of A Fighting Chance, is our guest blogger today and he has some words of encouragement for us on this issue. 


God doesn’t make trash…..He hears your cry!!!!

This blog post is for those people who lost hope…..

This blog post is for those people that were told they wouldn’t amount to anything….

This blog post is for the CHAMPION in all of us….

Living life isn’t always the easiest task. Sometimes life can beat us down to the point that we don’t want to get back up. A lot of times we pray, and we feel that God doesn’t answer our prayers in a timely manner. The one thing that we have to understand is that our time isn’t God’s time, He moves when he’s good and ready. In this life, we ALL have some type of dream or goal that we want to achieve. Through the process of reaching our dreams, we encounter people who will do anything to stop us from getting to that point. And a lot of times, the people that we embark on are those closest to us…crazy huh? But it happens. A lot of times it’s those that are closest to us that don’t have a clue of what God is trying to do in our lives.

The good news is the storms that we endure are simply a test. Sure a lot of times we don’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. That light is indeed there, we just have to keep pushing towards it. You must understand that God is GREATER than any PREDICAMENT that we are faced with. There are times when people tell us that our dreams are stupid, childish, or even phony. That’s fine, let those other people talk…after all, God has the final say so, and the beauty of it is that God gives us control of our own destinies…it’s just on us to walk into what’s ours. So, instead of complaining…start claiming.

At the end of the day, we are all champions; we just have different roads to our titles. Never forget that God is a bridge builder, so when you’re walking in your darkest hour, trust that God won’t leave you hanging. Granted we might sin daily, which is why Jesus went to the cross for us. So, when others come against you and your dreams don’t fret…just keep pushing. Those people are just misguided…

“When the world brings you down to your knees…you’re in the PREFECT position to pray”

Sleepless Nights – There is always a solution

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“I have spent my whole life scared. Frightened of things that could happen, might happen, might not happen. Fifty years I spent like that. Finding myself awake at 3 in the morning. But you know what? Ever since my diagnosis, I sleep just fine. And I came to realize it’s that fear that’s the worst of it. That’s the real enemy. So get up. Get out in the real world. And you kick that bastard as hard as you can right in the teeth.” – Walter White, Breaking Bad

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You Can Do It — Yes You Can

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Yuichiro Miura is an 80-year-old Japanese mountain climber.  He has had heart surgery four times.  Now he says he is heading to back to Mount Everest for his third ascent.  He has climbed the summit before in 2003 and 2008.  If he is successful, he will be the oldest person to reach the top. 

What an awesome bucket list challenge.  What a way to Kick Fear Now!  Mr. Miura, I know you will be successful.

“If you wish strongly, have courage and endurance, then you can get to the summit of your dream.”  Yuichiro Miura

How Safe Are Your Goals from Unrealistic Fear?

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What do you do when you hit a stumbling block or roadblock along the way of achieving your goal?  What about two or three stumbling blocks and several roadblocks?  Do you throw up your hands in the air and decide that “this is all a waste of time, why bother”. shutterstock_85942999

Unrealistic fear is attempting to stop you from success but I am here to encourage you to please don’t give up.  Now is the time to dig your heels in and push forward with more determination.

Brian Tracy, the man I go to every time I am working on my goals, says that the two major obstacles to success and achievement are fear and doubt.  He says that the average number of times that people try to accomplish their goals is “less than one.”  To me that is scary.  In other words people do not pursue their goals completely because they cannot get past the fear factor.  Most give up before they even start.

Tracy draws a picture for us to elaborate this position.  He says that as soon as people think of their goal, “these fears (failure, poverty, loss, embarrassment, or rejection) overwhelm them and, like a bucket of water on a small fire, extinguish their desire completely.”  Today, especially as we still on the topic of our bucket lists, I want you to turn the tables around.  In other words, reposition your fears.

First, let your fears be the small fire.  That’s right, take all your fears, whatever they are, and mentally toss them on that small fire.  Fear of rejection, toss it on the fire.  Fear of lack, toss it on the fire.  Fear of being in a relationship.  Go ahead, toss it on the fire.  Keep going, one by one, toss them on the fire.

Next, Get your goals together. They should be big, so big that they consume your mind with thoughts of progress and accomplishment.  So big, that the minute fear raises its ugly head your big goals jump into action.

Now is time for that bucket.

Pour those goals out
Pour those goals out


Your goals are what are in that giant bucket.  Your desires are what you will pour out each time fear tries to ignite itself.  With each turn of the bucket, one by one, your goals will eliminate every fear, every doubt, every obstacle that forms a resistance between you and your success.

Your life is too precious to allow it to be wasted away by small, unrealistic fear.  The path ahead of you is an amazingly, awesome one that requires you to give it all your focus, energy, and strength.  You cannot and must not waste time on what you are not yet capable of doing.  Instead, allow what you know, what you have, and what you are capable of doing, to propel you along.

Stumbling blocks and road blocks are just placed in front of you to see how determined you are to succeed.  If there is a shortfall in any area then find tools to help you make up for it.  Just don’t give up, don’t drop out, and most of all, don’t stop.  Remember, the race is not for the swift or the fearful but it is for the one who is determined to go all the way, if only at a tortoise pace.  Now go ahead, Kick Fear Now!


For more on setting and accomplishing goals visit @BrianTracy.com

How to Use Your Bucket List to Kick Fear Now

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My girlfriend just called me from Florida and said, “Pange, we’ve got to go to a Polo match. I’ve never been to one before and I want to cross it off my bucket list.”

“Interesting,” I said to her.  “Did you know that a bucket list is a list of things that a person wants to accomplish before they die? Or to use the correct phrase, before they kick the bucket?”

I knew this because all week I have been churning in my mind what I was going to write in this post.  Dana Sitar, author of A Writer’s Bucket List, has proposed a Bucket List Challenge Blog Hop to celebrate the launch of her new book.  All I have to do is answer the question, “What will you cross off your Bucket List in 2013?”

Bucket List Blog Hop Badge

I had never heard the term “bucket list” used before I saw the movie with the same title, starring Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman.  Growing up in London, England I was quite familiar with the phrase because people were always “kicking the bucket.” Whether or not they had made a list of things before they did so, I really don’t know.

I did know something about planning for the future.  I knew about goals, dreams, desires and aspirations, but no bucket list.  I knew about what I wanted to be when I grew up.  Of course, I’m grown up now and certainly am not doing that at all.  Well not exactly.  I even put together my 100 goals that I want to accomplish during my life time but there was no emphasis, while I was writing, at least I don’t think so, about doing them before I kicked the bucket.

Many people would never dream of putting together a bucket list.  That, after all, would be tempting fate.  But when you think about it putting together that B-List is one sure way of facing your fears.  It’s your way of telling those unrealistic fears that you are not afraid of the unknown.  You are ready for a change and you are going to live life to the fullest.

Your bucket list will push you from just existing with no goals, no dreams, and no future.  It will show you a world full of possibilities.  It will also give you the determination and courage to believe, and accept, that a bright future awaits you.  There is something that happens when you write down your goals and visualize yourself accomplishing them.  They will keep you focused and remind you that success is within reach if you push yourself toward reaching those goals.

Facing your fears is not easy but it can be done.  Even if you only do one thing on that bucket list, the fact that you went on the journey of doing something, is an achievement that can be celebrated.  As for me, I’ve learned to accept that my journey of life has both joys and pains.  Somethings I set out to do I will accomplish, others, I won’t.  Despite that, I will not let unrealistic fear stop me from trying my best.

Mountains at Cuzco, Peru

Therefore, in answer to Dana’s question, I will be climbing a mountain in 2013.  I thought it would be Mt. Kilimanjaro, but that is for another time.  Instead, I am going after the next best thing and will tackle the mountains at Cuzco, Peru.  I will be hiking a 4-day, 25 mile, 3 high passes crossing the Inca Trail to Machu Picchu.  The trail is often steep and one of the passes reaches an elevation of 13,776 ft.  Hopefully this adventure will propel me into completing my next book Mountain Move Out of My Way.  If I succeed in this endeavor trust me, you will be the first to know.

So what about you?  Have you put together your bucket list yet?  If not, and you need help in doing so, then visit Dana Sitar’s Blog Hop Page @http://writersbucketlist.com/challenge and see what some other bloggers are going to cross of their bucket list in 2013.  Perhaps you will be inspired to do something too.